Breanna Rutter


Hello everyone this is Breanna Rutter author of one of my most popular books the natural hair Bible and founder of for these videos I love to answer the questions you all send me via email so any of you have any questions you like for me to answer be sure to check out the description box below for additional information so this video is because of an email that I received from Yazmine and she subject the email I hate my 4c hair she went on and on explain how she tired of tired is the thickness the napinness the kinkiness the issues that she's having with detangling this is a sick of it altogether she feels like she can’t retain length so on and so forth to get to the point that she wishes that she had looser textured hair and should she relax are not so thank you Yazmine for your email and I've been getting a lot of emails related to this very thing about whether natural hair is best for that person to go forth with and it really close to home for me because I am natural hair my hair is type 4c and I get criticized and I get criticized and I get a lot of criticisms from all angles you know sometimes if my hair is not straight enough then I have split ends or my ends are damaged and sometimes of my hair even looks a little bit more kinky than usual that a lot of people saying that my hair is damaged or its dry or I need a deep conditioning treatment so I definitely understand where you're coming from as far that is with your 4c hair being accepted or acceptable to everyone around you and that just made me want to just let you know that really your hair is your choice I don’t have to wear your natural hair you are the one that has to take care of your hair whether you want to keep it natural or you want to chemically relax it so even though there may be pressures of someone with a looser texture for instance someone who may be in the type 3 category that you may feel intimidated by and I can definitely understand that but everyone's hair is different your made different I’m made different even my 4c hair will look slightly differently yours because my hair is unique to me and yours is unique to you and that's why you got to make the decision for yourself so I know you email me asked me what should I do and I'll tell you to choose what’s going to make you happy if you want to keep the natural hair keep it you want to chemically relax it you can do that and then another point that I want to mention is that no matter which type of hair you have the same type of care and patience and love and investment of time is what’s going to get you to actually grow your hair long there are too many success stories about people with type 4 hair and especially specifically type 4c hair they can reach very long hair some individual I've seen either with all way down to bellybutton length so it’s not impossible it’s just a matter of costly doing all the right things that it takes for you to grow healthy hair I don't understand why it’s such this oppressive cloud within the natural hair community that says you know true natural okay color can’t relax can’t wear weaves and can’t use heat on their hair and that’s so crazy because everybody is different just because you want to try different things with your hair doesn't mean that it makes you any more or less natural now I know the definition for natural hair maintenance chemically altered that's understandable but there's so many gray areas as far as coloring and applying heat that it really depends up to you it's no one else's defining thing to tell you what to do with your hair will how you should feel about your hair so I don't know maybe she does really check the core possibly of why you hate your hair so much is because of the way that it makes you feel when you look in the mirror or is it because the way that other people treat you or look at you because of your hair I really don't care for me personally because I love my hair I love it whether it was going to be kept natural or even if it was maybe possibly relaxed one day because I don’t have a problem with what the hair that with the hair that I if I choose to do something different to what that's not choice someone else does it's their choice so thanks for your email and I want you to understand that I'm not the one to tell you what to do and think you are you know what to do so just make the choice that's best for you and don't worry about what people say because everybody has something to say about something so I want to thank all of you for watching this video and I also want you guys to comment on some things that I said here because I wonder if you guys also think that there is this oppressive cloud the natural community that stops a lot of individuals wanted to actually express their hair which is crazy so let me see what you have to say I can't wait to look forward to reading your comments and until then I'll see all of you in my very next video

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